Four points to consider when working towards your goals

Your goals in life may be personal, family or career orientated. Whatever they are, you should be working on these daily. 

I have a number of goals for my family, career, small business and church ministry. A few are over ambitious but I feel it is important to set goals high. If you aim for 60, you may hit 50/55 whereas if you aim for 100, you may hit 90/95. Big difference!

I love this quote by Don Lancaster;
“Most ‘impossible’ goals can be met simply by breaking them down into bite size chunks, writing them down, believing them and then going full speed ahead as if they were routine.”

This quote resonates with me on so many levels. It reminds me that reaching my goal is simply a process that I must follow consistently and diligently. 

So, the four things to consider;

1. What is your purpose?  What expected outcome are you hoping for? There has to be a reason for setting your goal.  This reason will keep you motivated and focused when tough times come (and they will!)

2. How much are you willing to sacrifice?
Desiring to achieve goals is not enough.
You will need to pursue then daily. You may need to brush up on your skills, read books, network at events. All of which will monopolise on your time. 

3. When do you want to achieve this by?
There has to be a set end date to ensure you meet the deadline. You can then plan the steps you will make to meet it.

4. What impact will this have on your family? It is far better to have the support of your family. Will striving for your goals eat into family time? Communicate with your spouse and children at all times. Balance family life and work/project life. I know this may not be for everyone but I sacrifice a few hours sleep to work on my goals.  I can then focus my time on my children during the day. 

Do you have defined goals?

Do you work towards these on a daily basis?

Six reasons why you need discipline in your life

Discipline and success go hand in hand. You simply cannot excel in life without incorporating discipline in your life. 

In today’s society, some underestimate the power that self discipline carries. They commit to very little and rarely exceed beyond what is expected of them. 

What springs to mind when you think of discipline?

Discipline to me means reading the bible when you would much rather watch a programme on television, it means leaving a family gathering early so you can go home and work on your business/book/project/job application (delete as appropriate!)

According to Oxford Dictionaries, it is defined as;

“The practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behaviour”

“Activity that provides mental or physical training” 

Now for my six reasons;

1. Discipline helps you to remain focused in your everyday life.  You are more likely to set goals and work towards these on a daily basis. Distractions will come but they will not throw you off course as your eye is on the ball. 

2. Discipline helps you to gain respect by others. Think about your place of work. I am sure you could quickly list the officers who displayed behaviours of self discipline such as excellent time keeping and meeting deadlines. 

3. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle demands discipline. Discipline will get you up and out for a morning jog regardless of how cosy your bed is. Discipline will help you curb your eating habits.

4. Self control.  Those with self discipline take ownership of their behaviour and think before they speak. They avoid becoming involved in petty disputes. 

5. Reduced stress. Discipline means you do not leave tasks until the very last minute but you tackle them bit by bit aiming for a specific deadline. 

6. You will have more free time as your day is structured. Disciplined people generally do not procrastinate. 

Have I missed anything?

In which areas of your life are you self disciplined?

Which areas would you like to improve upon?

Five tips for working in excellence!

Working in excellence will set you in good stead in your home, place of work, business or church ministry.  Be the one who exceeds expectation rather than just meets it. 

We should aim to do everything, not just some things to the best of our ability. It is true that we may not be as excited to do tasks that we least enjoy – ironing anyone?! However, it is still important that those tasks are completed well. Sloppiness has no place in our lives. I repeat – sloppiness has no place in our lives!

Below I will give you five tips on how to strive for excellence:

1. Work on changing your mindset.  Some tasks will never be exciting but as they are necessary you cannot run away from doing them.  The next time you have to complete a task that you would rather not, plan a small treat for yourself to enjoy afterwards.

2. Spend time with people who challenge and inspire you to move out of your comfort zone. Whilst it is easier to do as we have always done, we will not develop our skills or our character. 

The well known quote by Albert Einstein rings true;

“Insanity: Doing the same things over and over again, but expecting different results”.

3. Look at how you will go on to benefit others and take the focus off of yourself. Think about doing for others and learn to enjoy giving of yourself. Go out of your way to be a blessing whether it be with your time, skills and expertise, financially or emotionally. 

4. Improve your skills and quality of life.
Book onto a training course to develop your skills in an area you are passionate about. Join forums/groups to network with people who have similar interests. You will be surprised with the ideas you can bounce off one another.  Look after your body inside and out – eat healthily, drink lots of water and incorporate 30 minutes of exercise into your day. 

5. Learn from past failings but do not dwell on them.  Everyone has failed at something Do not allow this to deter you from being the best you can.  Learn from your mistakes by not returning to them. Do not be afraid to take risks. 

What does working in excellence mean to you?

Are there tasks that you carry out half-heartedly? If so, why? 

Kick-start your day into action – my tips on staying ahead of the game!

I am not a morning person, sure I wake up in time to get ready and catch my early train but anything else, NO!  I have made my morning regime as pain free as possible by implementing seven rules which I will share below.

1. Plan your journey ahead of time by checking your door to door route online. Do not take the train/bus that will allow you to arrive with five minutes to spare. Always, always allow for delays. Looking and feeling flustered for a meeting or appointment will not put you in a good light.

2. Select your outfit the night before – from underwear to shoes (yes, I am being that specific!)  Lay it out in a spare room or hang outside your wardrobe.

3. Select your handbag and ensure your purse, diary, travel ticket, mirror, umbrella and other items are packed in it.

4. Have a last minute look at your appointments. Are you required to bring any documentation?

5. If you wish to make calls or send emails on your commute, bring the necessary contact details. I use my commute and lunchtime to read the bible, other books, to send emails and make calls. I rarely make or take calls during weekday evenings as this time is dedicated to my family.

6. If you have young children, hang out their clothes, shoes, school bag (ensure homework and reading books are inside) the night before.  Lay out their breakfast utensils.

7. Take out your evening meal unless you have a cook (aren’t you fortunate!) or plan on eating out.

What takes ten minutes at night will take you far longer in the morning. Whether it is because stress levels are higher or you are more likely to feel pressured, I believe this to be true.

Do you agree?

How do you plan from the night before?

Do your family support you on this?

Be prepared and ready for action!

With our busy lifestyles it can be difficult to manage meetings and appointments. From business appointments to projects, just how do we fit everything in and ensure that we are well prepared?

I use my diary to within an inch of my life. If I plan to follow up on my customers, I note it in my diary. If I would like to spend time updating my Facebook business page, I note it in my diary. I am sure you get the picture!

Preparation is key. Working in excellence is key – at all times not just when it is convenient for you. Preparing in advance sets us in good stead. What you do today, impacts on your tomorrow.

Below are several tips on how to best utilise your diary;

1. Firstly, I recommend that you use a hard diary and electronic diary on your phone . Reason being, if you mislaid either you would still have access to your dates.

2. Prepare in advance for your appointment/meeting.  Are you required to contact the organisation or gather specific information?   Being unprepared looks unprofessional, thus creating the wrong impression.

3. Set reminders on your phone to prompt you to prepare. It is all too easy to have it at the back of your mind but a prompt kicks it all into motion.

How prepared are you?

Are you ordered in every part of your life or just your career?

Stop procrastinating and just do it!


Procrastination can hinder people from moving forward.  I will even go as far to say that it is crippling and serves no purpose whatsoever.  I believe it is part of our nature to want to focus on those things that we enjoy most. It is here that we are comfortable and confident.

I am definitely not a procrastinator. If I make up my mind to do something, I do it. For years I could not understand why people ‘sat on’ tasks especially those that take five minutes. Was it a fear of the unknown, no motivation or an element of laziness? The thought of taking on something new can be distressing but the longer you delay, the more challenging it becomes.

I try to live by this rule;

“Do not put off for tomorrow, what you can do today”!

We should not take time for granted, it is precious and we cannot claim it back.

With two young children, I work on my blog and side business during my commute and late at night. It is not always easy but during this time I can fully apply myself with little or no interruptions.

Read my five tips below on how to overcome procrastinating;

1. Take small steps. Look at your task and take out a few easy elements. This is where you build momentum.

2. Avoid too much planning as this is just another form of procrastination.

3. Stop making excuses as to why you cannot work on your project:

“I am too tired”

“I am not in the mood”

“I work well under pressure.”

4. Do not overthink as this could lead to self doubt.

5. Think about how valuable the project is. What is your expected outcome? This will keep you pushing forward until the end.

Are you a procrastinator? If so, how are you trying to improve on this?

Or perhaps you have no issues with starting projects.

Five ways to improve your time management

With increasing demand from family life, our careers and ministry there is a greater need for effective time management.

We are each given just 24 hours. It is entirely down to us how we choose to spend it. 

Personally, I have cut down on my TV viewing time which has made a huge difference to my evenings. I now spend this time doing things that are helping me to develop my character and skills.  

I actively set aside family time otherwise I will allow myself to get caught up in other tasks which are important but should not take priority. I love my family to bits but by nature I am a doer. I like to tick off my check list and see instant results.  

My five tips to improve your time management; 

1. Wake up with a purpose for each day. Without purpose, one drifts in life. I start my day with prayer and reading the bible. I ask God to reveal His plans for me that day and actively seek to bless at least one person with a word of encouragement, my support, a listening ear. 

2. Write down your priorities each day, in order of preference. Tasks not carried out can be carried over to the following day (there will be one or two!)

3. Plan to arrive early NOT on time. If you arrange to meet someone for 1pm, make a mental note to arrive for 12.30pm. This will allow for traffic and any other delay. 

4. Communicate your movements with your spouse to ensure you are working as a team. Pull together to make life workable. Ensure you know of one another’s plans so there are no misunderstandings or double bookings. 

5.  Make full use of your diary and apps on your mobile phone. I recommend noting events and key dates in a hand diary and your mobile.  Also use the ‘reminder’ option as a prompt. This works well for me!

How effective are your time management methods?

Do you secretly wish for more hours in the day?

Light hearted tips and advice from an organised lady!


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