My priorities this year include;
1. Grow spiritually – more time studying the bible and praying
2. Develop myself within my church worship team
3. Grow my church cell group and impact the lives of each woman
4. Regularly update my blog
5. Excel in my make up business – reduce my working hours
6. Increase my networking
With all this in mind, among other more personal priorities, I will need to keep my focus and turn a blind eye to little things that usually gripe meanything is possible. A prime example is when my daughter and son’s toys are covering the lounge carpet and my daughter decides to bring out her arts and crafts on the floor where my son is guaranteed to spill them.
My husband is a gadget person and if he does not have phone/headphone leads hanging out then it is a laptop permanently open and perched on a table. Although I like to see everything in it’s place I will not allow these day to day things to distract me from my goals.
As women, if we are not mindful we can emerge ourselves only in the domestics and lay our passions to rest. I feel it is important to have order in and outside of our home but we must also pursue our passions, those things that drive us.
I watched a film (Motherhood) with Uma Thurman who plays a frustrated blogger and a married mother of two living in an inner city flat. She has a heart to heart with her husband and complains that she is fed up with picking up his socks. He turns to her and says;
“What makes you want to live a life of passion, no matter how many socks you have to pick up?”
Immediately I thought YES this is the place I want to be at!
I have at times felt like running away – there, I have said it! This feeling rears it’s ugly head when I am burned out or the children have been playing up; daughter taking toys out just before bedtime, son refusing to sleep despite being tired, son crying due to teething I could go on.
Leading an organised life means I am constantly kept on my toes. I am either thinking, planning or doing. This is the only way to keep things ticking over. I am slowly realising the importance of finding time for myself . One thing I enjoy is loading photographs from Pinterest onto my personal boards – I could spend hours doing this!
As women, we must be kinder to ourselves and fit in ‘me’ time. I am talking to myself here too! We spend the majority of our time catering to the needs of our families and tend to put ourselves last. Men have no problems in finding time to relax regardless of what is going on around them. For centuries they have prioritised socialising and carry no guilt either. How many men do you know who step in the house and walk straight in the kitchen to cook a meal? Yet this is the norm for many women. My husband always rests for 30 minutes or so on arriving home from work.
Start by scheduling a few hours just for you. Do something you actually enjoy rather than spending the day pottering around at home. If you have a young family leave the children with your husband/partner, family or friend. You really are more likely to embrace your busy lifestyle if you slot in personal time for yourself. Perhaps you already take time out
There is a well known quote by William Morris;
“Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful”.
I wonder how many people own items they no longer use or need? Perhaps they keep these items out of habit or because they believe they may require them one day. Some have attachments to particular items as they remind them of their childhood/youth or a lost loved one.
almost impossible difficult to maintain order in the home if we possess too many items. For one you will run out of storage space and two, it will grow increasingly difficult to find these items when you need them.
I am ruthless when deciding which items to keep or discard of. If it no longer serves a purpose, then it has to go. Of course I become attached to things just as others do but I have found solutions. I have keepsake boxes for my chidren which include scans, baby album, their first tooth/baby grow/outfit/shoes/celebration cards/medical notes. I also have a box for my husband and I with wedding photographs and cards we have given to one another for birthdays and anniversaries.
My daughter has toy storage underneath her bed and a toy box
which she barely opens! Every month or two whilst she is sleeping I sort through her box and discard of broken toys or puzzles with missing pieces. The majority of the time she does not even notice.
Every few months I sort through my children’s clothes to identify which items need to be thrown out or given to charity. I also have a quick sort through my wardrobe which I find quite therapeutic. Occasionally I venture into my husband’s wardrobe
which is bursting at the seams to create a pile of clothes he no longer wears. It is then his decision to keep or throw them.
Do you have a different system that works well for you?
I would like to hear from you .