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A woman’s work is never done


Another busy week lays ahead!

Does anyone else feel that housework is non stop? I am constantly putting clothes in the washing machine or hanging them out. Not to mention the household chores which I must say my husband is equally brilliant at. I am sure women around the world have the same responsibilities as I do but perhaps their attitude and approach differs greatly to mine.

My daughter breaks for Easter this week and I have various activities planned for them. We also have a special Easter Service at church. My daughter mentioned going on an Easter egg hunt and has asked if we are taking a family break no pressure there then! I felt a little guilty as my husband and I went on a much needed hotel break. I returned home a different woman I tell you! As much as you love your children, it is healthy to occasionally spend time alone with your spouse.

My mother recently encouraged me with the following,

“Housework will never end so do not try to beat it. Instead work with it.”

Those words truly resonated with me as I have, in the past attempted to out win housework and guess what – it wins every time.  I am results driven and receive much satisfaction when a task or project has been completed.  I like a definite end and am fully aware that this is not always possible.

In your opinion is a woman’s work ever done?

Do you have a system in place to make housework easier/less tedious?

Thank you for reading!

What season are you in?

The last few weeks of my life have been hectic (what is new you might say?)
A few nights last week I actually contemplated staying awake until morning as it was already 2.30/3am. I was busy preparing for exams and interviews. If you have young children you will understand how difficult it is to focus on anything in detail whilst they play and make noise or are vying for your time.
Our son and daughter both compete for my time. Our daughter is still adjusting at having to ‘share’ her parents with her younger brother! The sulking, tantrums and whining are just a few behaviours we have to contend with. There are times I imagine them as teenagers and then I remind myself to enjoy and capture all the stages of their lives.
I have been greatly challenged by embracing various changes in my life and time has been limited. I am all for change and understand it’s importance in order for us to move forward in life but sometimes it really is thrust upon you.
I believe this is where faith comes in   – I love the famous quote;
“Lord give me the strength to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference”.
As wonderful as this quote is, how many of us live by this?
I admit to trying to change things in the past, through desperation and frustration. With all my efforts, no changes came as I was required to go through that season. This can be likened to a woman in labour, her body wants to ‘fight’ the pain as oppose to endure it but this will not bring the baby forth any sooner.
Are you embracing the current season in your life?
What are you learning from this?

Make time for leisure

Now, this post is as much for me as it is for you, the reader.  In a nutshell, I would like to schedule in more leisure time.
Several years ago my husband and I made the decision to plan at least one date night a month. We have good intentions then our schedules get in the way and we may skip a month del or two del.  We are happy being together at home which is just as well!
My days are filled with work, commuting, running my side business, housework, child rearing, supporting my husband. On a spiritual note – reading /studying the bible, praying, preparing for the two ministries I serve in.
I am often driven by ‘doing’ and struggle to relax until the above has been completed.
Injecting leisure time into your life brings a balance.  Also you are more likely to embrace and cope with your busy lifestyle.
Do you have leisure time?
What activities do you do?

What are your priorities in 2015?


My priorities this year include;
1. Grow spiritually – more time studying the bible and praying

2. Develop myself within my church worship team

3. Grow my church cell group and impact the lives of each woman

4. Regularly update my blog

5. Excel in my make up business – reduce my working hours

6. Increase my networking

With all this in mind, among other more personal priorities, I will need to keep my focus and turn a blind eye to little things that usually gripe meanything is possible. A prime example is when my daughter and son’s toys are covering the lounge carpet and my daughter decides to bring out her arts and crafts on the floor where my son is guaranteed to spill them.

My husband is a gadget person and if he does not have phone/headphone leads hanging out then it is a laptop permanently open and perched on a table. Although I like to see everything in it’s place I will not allow these day to day things to distract me from my goals.

As women, if we are not mindful we can emerge ourselves only in the domestics and lay our passions to rest. I feel it is important to have order in and outside of our home but we must also pursue our passions, those things that drive us.

I watched a film (Motherhood) with Uma Thurman who plays a frustrated blogger and a married mother of two living in an inner city flat. She has a heart to heart with her husband and complains that she is fed up with picking up his socks. He turns to her and says;

“What makes you want to live a life of passion, no matter how many socks you have to pick up?”

Immediately I thought YES this is the place I want to be at!

Maximising time

maximise time

I have at times felt like running away – there, I have said it!  This feeling rears it’s ugly head when I am burned out or the children have been playing up; daughter taking toys out just before bedtime, son refusing to sleep despite being tired, son crying due to teething I could go on.

Leading an organised life means I am constantly kept on my toes. I am either thinking, planning or doing. This is the only way to keep things ticking over. I am slowly realising the importance of finding time for myself . One thing I enjoy is loading photographs from Pinterest onto my personal boards – I could spend hours doing this!

As women, we must be kinder to ourselves and fit in ‘me’ time. I am talking to myself here too! We spend the majority of our time catering to the needs of our families and tend to put ourselves last.  Men have no problems in finding time to relax regardless of what is going on around them. For centuries they have prioritised socialising and carry no guilt either.  How many men do you know who step in the house and walk straight in the kitchen to cook a meal? Yet this is the norm for many women.  My husband always rests for 30 minutes or so on arriving home from work.

Start by scheduling a few hours just for you. Do something you actually enjoy rather than spending the day pottering around at home.  If you have a young family leave the children with your husband/partner, family or friend.  You really are more likely to embrace your busy lifestyle if you slot in personal time for yourself.  Perhaps you already take time out

Declutter, declutter, declutter!


There is a well known quote by William Morris;
Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful”.

I wonder how many people own items they no longer use or need? Perhaps they keep these items out of habit or because they believe they may require them one day. Some have attachments to particular items as they remind them of their childhood/youth or a lost loved one.

It is almost impossible difficult to maintain order in the home if we possess too many items. For one you will run out of storage space and two, it will grow increasingly difficult to find these items when you need them.

I am ruthless when deciding which items to keep or discard of. If it no longer serves a purpose, then it has to go. Of course I become attached to things just as others do but I have found solutions. I have keepsake boxes for my chidren which include scans, baby album, their first tooth/baby grow/outfit/shoes/celebration cards/medical notes. I also have a box for my husband and I with wedding photographs and cards we have given to one another for birthdays and anniversaries.

My daughter has toy storage underneath her bed and a toy box which she barely opens! Every month or two whilst she is sleeping I sort through her box and discard of broken toys or puzzles with missing pieces. The majority of the time she does not even notice.

Every few months I sort through my children’s clothes to identify which items need to be thrown out or given to charity. I also have a quick sort through my wardrobe which I find quite therapeutic. Occasionally I venture into my husband’s wardrobe which is bursting at the seams to create a pile of clothes he no longer wears. It is then his decision to keep or throw them.

Do you have a different system that works well for you?
I would like to hear from you .