Our desire for more

With many people having lost or being at risk of losing their jobs, one has to wonder whether we should be content with what we have. There is a desire in us, or at least the majority of us to want bigger and better; in terms of our home, careers, cars, clothes, furniture, holidays – the list is endless. It seems only natural that our tastes change as we grow older and our earning potential increases.

The clothes stores I frequented when in my 20’s and 30’s are not the same stores I wish to buy in today. I was at a different stage in life then, in terms of my sense of style and how I wanted to portray myself to the outside world. As a young adult I was into quick fashion whereas now I veer towards classic clothes and give thought to the fabric and fit.

Recently I considered buying a winter coat and decided against it because I own four coats which I have purchased over the last few years. I am desperately trying to gravitate away from this idea that I need more of the same, just because. I am slowly getting there……

As our salaries increase, our lifestyle changes in order to reflect this; our social life, hobbies, the area in which we live in, the car we drive. We are able to outsource tasks such as gardening, cleaning, ironing to free up our time to do as we would like. Some choose to send their children to prep and private schools to further enhance their learning and career opportunities.

It is guaranteed that there will always be bigger and better and when some achieve what is unimaginable to the majority, they will still push to move to the next level simply because there is more to be had.

The question is what have you marked as your point of ‘arriving’ or ‘making it’?

Do you see the world as ‘being your oyster’?


OUR EVER growing need to adapt

With our second lockdown in full throw we have adapted the way in which we go about our daily lives.

The first lockdown meant many of us worked from home, those with children were also responsible for supervising school work. Items such as toilet tissue, pasta and rice were in high demand and rarely on the supermarket shelves. We were advised to wear face masks in supermarkets and on the train. We had to remain in bubbles of six in and out of the house. It slowly became the new normal.

In July, lockdown ended and we had access to the hairdressers, beauty salons, shopping centres, pubs and restaurants. People walked with a spring in their step at the prospects of being able to finally do more than a walk in the park. The warm weather also helped raise our spirits. One day in August my family and I went to Greenwich Park for the afternoon. There was such a buzz in the air as people sat in their bubbles eating and drinking.

We are now in our second lockdown and though a little depressing being so close to Christmas, it has made us more resilient. We have been able to accept the new normal acknowledging the importance of adhering to the government’s policies.

It is unknown when the majority of employees will return to working in the office. Technology today means meetings can take place via Skype, Zoom and MS Teams.

For small business owners, change has not been as easy. Decisions will surely need to be made in the near future.

2020 will certainly go down in history!

When life takes a detour

It is great to be back on my blog after five long months!

Today, I will explore the challenge of when life does not quite go as planned, when you do not reach your goals as expected and when opportunities pass you by.

From the age of 15 or16, we are expected to know what college and university course we would like to choose and what career we would like to enter into. Some have a smooth linear transition from GCSEs, A levels, degree, masters and the ideal job which provides the opportunity to climb the corporate ladder. Others will not get onto their desired course due to receiving lower grades, undergoing emotional or psychological trauma, suffering from depression or another set back. At the time of facing disappointment you will feel there is no other way in, the door has officially closed, your dreams are over – I have felt this on several occasions.

There is a point at which you accept you will have to take a different route, one you certainly did not plan for. It may take longer, offer no guarantees and leave you feeling discouraged. The flip side of this is new opportunities will arise, you are still enhancing your skill set, soaking up information and extending your knowledge base. Every sense of failure is an opportunity to learn a new lesson.

Whilst we would (well I would) prefer the option of moving smoothly from one step to another, life rarely operates this way. Challenges build our resilience, it means we work harder for what we believe we want and need.

As we grow older, we begin to learn more about ourselves; our strengths and weaknesses, our passions and where we fit in the world, in an organisation and within a team. We are able to use wisdom when making life altering decisions; looking at the bigger picture and not only the ‘feel good’ factor.

Allow the detours in life to help you grow, reflect on your journey and remain optimistic about the future.