Are you feeling forgotten?








The majority of us have felt forgotten at one stage or another in our lives. Whether it be the promotion given to your colleague, the fact that you dressed up to the nines on a night out and did not receive any compliments (women can relate to this one) or that your dreams/desires appear to be completely out of reach.  External factors including those I have mentioned above can heavily impact on the way you perceive yourself and believe others perceive you.

I have a tendency to withdraw when I feel overlooked. When a teenager I was extremely self-conscious and I can recall a very painful experience when age 15 or16. I bumped into a rather popular but pleasant peer at the bus stop and we proceeded to walk to school together. When we arrived at the school gates, our peers ran over with excitement to talk and laugh with her. Not one of our peers greeted me or acknowledged my existence.  I stood around like a lemon before walking away with embarrassment.

I have had moments in life when I have thought “when will it be my turn?” If you are honest, you have asked yourself this same question. The circumstances will of course differ but the feelings that rise to the surface are pretty much the same.

When you feel as if you have been forgotten you can go on to develop a negative mindset where you tell yourself: “I do not deserve it” and “I do not matter”.  After which you may purposely place yourself in the background and stop pursuing those things you desire. This is self destructive behaviour and does nothing to enhance your life.

It is important that you own your feelings however ugly, and dig deep to identify the true cause of it. Only then will you be able to work on yourself, only then will you be able to break free from the lies you have told yourself and the lies that others have spoken over you.

4 thoughts on “Are you feeling forgotten?”

  1. True as can be, Phoenicia. I can certainly think of times I’ve said to myself, woe is I, why isn’t anyone thinking of me? I usually talk myself out of it right away, but I’m sure I have wallowed in that place from time to time. Dust myself off and get going again!


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