Are you generous with your time?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Recently I spoke to a friend about the general fast pace of life; our desire to move things on quickly and get to the gist of conversations can mean we do not allow people to express themselves at their own pace.

A natural doer who likes to see end results quickly, I have a tendency to want to get to the point. However I would like to think that my self-awareness has improved over the years and I make a conscious effort to listen to people. Generally I enjoy people watching and listening- they never fail to fascinate me. There are so many elements to us as people and we are rather complex, well I know I am!

There is much we can learn from others if only we would take the time to listen. People are more important that results, processes, success and recognition yet this is not always portrayed. People are at times ignored and overlooked whilst we are in pursuit of what we believe to be more important.

As a child and teenager, barring my grandma (no biasness of course) I found elderly people dull and completely out of touch. I look back with fondness as I remember my grandma’s stories of her childhood, her time spent in Jamaica and my mum’s character as a child. I remember the advice my grandma gave about savings, marriage and children. I remember the sweet tea she made with Nestle condensed milk and her ability to rustle up the tastiest meal from the most basic of ingredients. I remember my grandma asking me to thread several needles as her eyesight was not so sharp. In her younger years my grandma was a seamstress and my daughter appears to have inherited this creative talent.  My grandma passed away 18 years ago and the memories are all I have.

I believe it is important to give a little of our time to others, however busy, frazzled or tired we are because people matter. When my children ask me the same question over and over or continuously discuss their birthday plans for months on end, I try to keep my cool and humour them.  A time will come when I will no longer be the centre of their universe and they will prioritise spending time with friends rather than their parents.

 

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8 thoughts on “Are you generous with your time?”

  1. Very true indeed Phoenicia. We often focus too much on ourselves and not always on the attention deserved by others, especially our loved ones.

    Your mention of how your grandma made sweet tea with Nestle condensed milk, reminded me of how my Nan used to make me coffee with evaporated milk.

    Ah memories!

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  2. You have struck on 2 very important chords, Phoenicia. Firstly, that we’re all to rushed and really don’t take the time to listen to people. We should, and I’m really grateful to Toastmasters for teaching me how to be a better listener. And secondly, that we truly will miss the people we don’t have time for once they’re gone, and should set our priorities straight and give the ones we love the gift of our time.

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  3. So right, “A time will come when I will no longer be the centre of their universe and they will prioritise spending time with friends rather than their parents.” Having lost my parents ten years ago, the spending time with good people I care about has gotten even more important to me. Looking back at their illnesses, I regret every hour I worked over time when I should have driven to their house instead. Wrong priorities, for sure. I’m glad we had email and and instant messaging dates.

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  4. People are more important that results, processes, success and recognition yet this is not always portrayed. People are at times ignored and overlooked whilst we are in pursuit of what we believe to be more important.

    I think you put it well in this passage. When we look back it people, not necessarily the results which are the road markers of the past.

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