Ways to combat stress







Life can be stressful and chaotic at times. In these moments what do you do? How do you feel?

The inability to deal with stress can have a major impact on your life. It can affect your home life, working life, the way you interact with others including family, extended family, acquaintances and colleagues. Stress can affect your health; mental health issues such as depression, moodiness, physical health such as chest pains and nausea. Stress can make you more prone to become dependant on drugs and alcohol.

It is important to identify strategies to deal with stress so you are not floored when situations arise – and they will! Whether it be in your family home, at work/within your business, or with extended family, you need to find a way of managing the situation and your response to it.

Over the years I have learnt to manage my emotions in the midst of chaos or stress. I must say it has not been an easy ride as I have to fight my natural tendency to stress . As a child and teenager I was so ordered, my dressing table was in order as was my wardrobe. I recall struggling immensely when life did not go to plan or I found myself in situations in which I had little or no control over. Looking back these issues appear small now but somehow I managed to blow them up in my mind and allow them to consume me. My need to keep my possessions in order was my way of having an element of control because there were areas of my life where there was none.

My five tips for dealing with stress:

1. Accept that stressful times will come no matter how organised, structured and focused you are.
2. In the moment of stress, identify what you have the power to do and focus on this.
3. Identify why you have a need to have such control. Does it stem back to your childhood, a relationship or a negative working environment?
4. Find someone to speak with confidentially whether a close friend or a qualified counsellor
5. For those of you who are Christians, I strongly advise you to pray when stress takes over.

So to round up, we can see that stress can affect many areas of our life, namely our well-being which must be protected in order for us to function well.

How do you cope with stressful situations?
What coping mechanisms have you put in place?
What advice would you give to others?

14 thoughts on “Ways to combat stress”

  1. Well said as always Phoenicia. I am a big believer in the power of prevention and I think your advice is spot on. I also know that if people would put more effort into setting and managing healthy personal boundaries they would be astonished at how much stress that eliminates! Thanks for the reminder and inspiration my friend.


  2. Great post, Phoenicia! I appreciate your insight about how your need to keep your closet and living space organized was to compensate for the areas of your life when you felt out of control. I can totally relate to that!


  3. Good tips–you are right that stress will come, so we need to find healthy ways of dealing with it. I like to pray, as you said, and exercise–that’s a real kicker for working down my stress levels. And it keeps me from lashing out at my husband–always a good thing!


  4. Hi Phoenicia. Insightful post. Stress will indeed come to all of us at some points in our lives. the key to handling it is, as you say, to focus on thew tings that we can change or have control over, and not to dwell on the things over which we have no control as that just adds to the stress.

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  5. Hi Phoenicia.

    Thanks for sharing with us. Combating stress and dealing with our inner struggles is probably one of the most sought after remedies in our time. Jobs, family, unrealistic expectations, and so many other things can make us or break us. I believe that praying, confiding in some close friend, writing things down and not thinking them over multiple times at night and lose sleep (guilty) are probably the three great ways to deal with this.

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  6. Hi Phoenicia, I can relate to you. I am a person ho live very planned life – office, gym, writing and my personal space. Whenever things don’t go as per my plan, it freaks me out. I appreciate all the points you mention. The most crucial thing to realise at the point of stress is that – “This too will pass, its just a phase.”

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    1. Hi Tushita, welcome back to the forum! I am pleased my points were of some help. Stress really can hold you bondage if you do not take control of it and identify the root.


  7. Prayer is my defense. I have found myself in stressful situations and take my Blood Pressure just to see the damage it is doing. Then, I seriously pray and center myself on God….Always, the blood pressure is substantially lowered.


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