Happiness is but a fleeting moment and for the most part, short lived. If we know this why do many seek after it? People buy books, subscribe to YouTube channels/podcasts, enter wrong relationships, make costly decisions in pursuit of happiness. Happiness is based on an event in time and though you may be or feel happy leading up to it, once it has passed you will find yourself back at square one.
Holding onto temporary measures gives us a false sense of security. It means we are likely to waiver with our emotions. An example being, we are excited before and during a holiday and feel slightly deflated afterwards. Why do you think many travellers book their holiday for the following year as soon as they return from their most recent holiday? Do not get me wrong, I enjoy going on holidays like every other person, however I do not live solely for holidays. I aim to enjoy my every day life which often includes the extremely mundane as well as the fun elements. I have had to learn to do this over the course of my life and struggled immensely with unhappiness in my teenage years and early 20’s. I was always on the look out for the next place to go or the next outfit to wear as there was a deep emptiness inside of me.
Whilst happiness is based on an event/events, joy comes from within. Joy does not depend on our social and financial status, planned activities, where we live, our relationships and so on. Joy remains with us even when life looks bleak. It may well not bloom in the same way it usually does but it is there.
Joy runs deep, far deeper than happiness something I have been thankful for in many stages of my life. Joy is ‘a knowing’ and ‘hoping’. Joy is comforting whereas happiness is always on the look out for the next best thing. Happiness needs to be fed and rarely brings true contentment.
Having joy lifts your spirit whereas happiness is completely reliant on external circumstances which we have little or no control over. A person can start the day believing they are happy and all it may take is a delayed train, spilt drink or a friend cancelling a social to put them in a low state.
Choose joy today!
What is your take on happiness and joy?
Which do you gravitate to?
How has your life experience influenced this?