Dealing with the twists and turns in life!








Life does not always pan out as one intended. We make plans, have dreams and sometimes they fizzle out or go a bit pear shaped. We only know what has been and what is happening right at this moment.  Imagine if we knew what was to come- what mayhem and terror that would cause! There would be nothing at all you could do to change “the script” – just sit back and wait.

A change in circumstances can turn our lives completely upside down in seconds; the passing away of a spouse, family member, failed exams, illness whether physically or mentally, breakdown of a relationship, abuse. There are many more examples I could give that would go on to alter the events of your life.  As a result your goals and dreams are likely to be placed on hold for a period of time. Some may be fortunate enough to return to what they would like to do whilst others see no way back and close the door on it.

As a teenager I had everything planned (in my head). Naively I assumed I would go on to do A levels which was the natural course for those who wanted to gain a degree. As it stands my GCSE results did not fall in line with my expected results (mocks). At that time I was struggling emotionally and was not in the frame of mind to study and focus. The evidence was clear when my results were revealed. Devastated does not even come close. In the early 1990’s I had no Internet to carry out research on career paths and there was little in the way of careers advice.

Eventually I applied to retake my GCSEs at college (I could not bear the thought of attending my school’s sixth form). I then went on to study for a GNVQ Advanced in Business and Finance which in a way has led me to my career today. In the mid 1990’s GNVQs were a fairly new course alternative and I remember receiving a few comments that they would never be as recognised as A levels.

Fast forward two years and I applied for a journalism course at a university in North London. I cannot recall the name as this was back in 1996/1997. I was excited and liked the area the university was set in; leafy suburban surroundings. My results from my GNVQ course meant the university was unable to offer me an unconditional place. Devastated again! To cut a long story short, I applied for universities via the clearing system and gained a place at West London University studying for a Media Technology degree.  I enjoyed my three years there but it was not the path I had expected to take.

We need a level of flexibility to cope with life. Of course there are some whose life does pan out exactly as they had expected, but there are many whose do not. There are often various pathways that lead to the same destination. It is our responsibility to find it.

Has your life panned out as you hoped?
How did you cope when dealing with changes of circumstances?
What advice would you give to others?


16 thoughts on “Dealing with the twists and turns in life!”

  1. Thanks for sharing!
    I have had twists and turns in my life too. I dreamed of being a lawyer, then an IT and Telecoms engineer, and after joining the workforce, I realized I like to work with people…so I quickly became a project manager, and have been dealing with people management and customer service activities…it felt imcomplete, so now I am a blogger sharing advice on public speaking/leadership…so ultimately I want o teach and inspire others.
    It took me 7 years in the workforce to finally realize my true calling, it could be more for others, or less, but I think we all have to just learn more about ourselves before becoming frustrated with things that apparently are our ultimate goals.


    1. Thank you for sharing your experience. Your life has definitely had some twists and turns which I am sure you have enjoyed along the way. We certainly do learn about ourselves – what an eye opener!


  2. What an interesting topic! For me I am shocked by the way my life has panned out, if someone told me a year ago that I will be into photography and visual storytelling, I would not believe it but I am loving the experience. Right from time I’ve always loved change. I tend to deal with change by focusing on the values instead of the fear. my motto is to learn to enjoy the change


    1. Thank you. I try to keep my blog topics relevant and thought provoking in order to conjur up in depth discussion. Photography and story telling are definitely ‘your thing’. You have found a good approach to change.


  3. Oh gosh, my life’s twists and turns have taken would take a couple of blogs to explain! I’m finally–partially–where I thought I would be eons ago. Along the way I’ve had some incredible experiences, so I call it all good.


  4. Hi Phoenica. What a topic for discuss! My career story is very similar to yours… Life just happens and it seems like we are helpless. You know the very important things about life are not taught in high schools and colleges.
    When life happens, girl, you happen back on life.


    1. Thank you for sharing your insight Debra. The majority of our plans do not go ahead exactly as we hoped and flexibility allows us to factor in perhaps working differently or finding a new approach.


  5. I love this topic Phoenicia! I think of “twists and turns” simply as detours, and I’ve learned to love them because sometimes they take you places you never could have otherwise dreamed of. I never would have dreamed of living in Hawaii, but I did. I never ever would have dreamed of having a career that would enable me to travel all over the world, but I did. Of course, I never would have dreamed of being divorced either, but life happens and more often than we are willing to admit the signs are there long before we’re hit with a change, we simply choose not to see them. I think it happens to all of us from time to time. Thanks for the inspirational read!


    1. Thank you Marquita – I appreciate your encouragement. I dream of going to Hawaii. I was fascinated by the country and the people as a child. It is on my list of ‘places to go’. I believe we do often see the signs but choose to do nothing in the hope that we were wrong.


  6. In Life, many times we encounter such twists and turns, I agree with you there are a number of pathways to the destination but sometimes we lose hope and feel stressed when we lose at any level of our life. The only key to success is never giving up and realising the fact that life doesn’t end on one failure. As you mentioned, flexibility is very important to cope with Life.


  7. Hi Phoenicia. My life is nothing like I would have expected at age 19 when I first married. Absolutely everything turned out differently. That is not to say it is not good now. It is just different. I think we need to keep our minds and parameters open to unexpected opportunities that may arise as they may take us places we never even dreamed.


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