The issue of trust……

 

 

 

 

 

 

Trusting someone is not an easy task. It takes years to build up trust and only a minute for it to come crumbling down.  Our past experiences shape us to who we are today. Those who are closed, defensive and rarely ‘let anyone in’ have valid reasons for doing so. Betrayal and disappointment can lead you to keeping people at arms length. It may be a lonely place but it is also becomes a safe place.

When we choose to trust we are laying our cards on the table and saying ‘this is me’.  We are choosing to let our guard down and reveal our true selves, some good and some ugly. There is no guarantee that we will not be hurt or betrayed in the future, in fact I can almost guarantee we will be. Does this mean we must live a closed life in order to preserve our heart? No, we should live openly and love one another using wisdom. It does not hurt one to observe others and identify who you can trust. There is no rush with such things. Jumping in head first can cause problems later on when you realise who you thought was a confidant was only someone interested in hearing about your downfalls.  Not all who show interest have your best interests at heart. Wisdom means you can decipher between those who just want to know and those who truly care.

I have struggled with trust and my nature is to suss people out before revealing much about myself. This has in some way served as protection and prevented me from getting myself involved in sticky situations. In other ways it has meant I take a rather long time to get to know people. I have been told I appear aloof on first meeting people which at first I perceived as a negative trait. Now I see it as just a part of me.

To round up, trusting requires an element of vulnerability. It means taking a chance on someone knowing they are only human and make mistakes just as I do.  It means picking yourself up and moving forward when the trust is broken.

What does trust mean to you?

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6 thoughts on “The issue of trust……”

  1. We agree on what trust is, and that it is fragile. It can never be taken for granted, or assumed and has to be shared equally if the people involved are going to grow in their relationship. Like you, I tend to trust too easily thinking that people will reciprocate. That sure isn’t always the case!

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  2. Trust is the most important factor in any kind of bond or relationship. Some people face the issue of not trusting anyone easily because of their past experiences while some face the problem of easily trusting anyone and then getting cheated. I am one of those people who trust easily, So what I think is we should maintain a balance – “Neither we should trust someone blindly and nor we should be cold-hearted”. A moderation can help us to be safe and enjoy the beauty of people.

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