This week I have had several conversations about how we are moved and often ruled by our emotions. Our emotions are powerful and real. They matter to us as individuals as we go to sleep with them at night and wake with them in the morning. We cannot always pinpoint why we have particular emotions, at times they just descend upon us catching us unawares.
Oscar Wild, author and poet quoted;
” I do not want to be at the mercy of my emotions, I want to use them, to enjoy them, to dominate them.”
What a powerful quote! I believe Oscar Wild realised how much we can live off of our emotions, that our emotions can heavily influence how we react to others and the way in which we perceive ourselves.
Emotions are linked to feelings. People, circumstances, a place will evoke feelings in us; these feelings may bring us joy or sadness. Our feelings can consume us and become a hindrance in us moving forward and reveiving the best that we can from life.
Reflecting back to my childhood years, I was a highly emotional child and teenager. Though quiet I felt a lot and kept these feelings hidden deep inside. I was an introvert and terribly shy so did not reveal much to others. I endured the ending of a very close friendship at the age of 13 and bullying almost simultaneously and said nothing. I kept my feelings so close to my heart that I am surprised I did not burst. There was definitely an element of rejection, shame and confusion involved. I did not know how to deal with the feelings that arose from these challenges. I tried to suppress the feelings and it only served to add to what would become years of depression.
I perceived high sensitivity as a hindrance and yearned to have a thick skin like several peers who chose to let comments fly over their head rather than go home and renumerate over them. I spent years questioning why I had such a character and yearned to be someone else, anyone but me. Boy am I glad I got over that!
I am now able to deal with my emotions far more effectively. However I still am a sensitive and emotional individual – I doubt this will ever change. I am able to accept who I am and own any feelings that come my way. The majority of the time I can detect whether I am blowing a situation out of proportion or if there really is an issue at hand. We cannot stop feelings but we can control how we react to them.
Being highly sensitive is not a weakness, in fact it keeps you in check and in tune. It means I can detect when others are suffering in silence and reach out to them. It means I can empathise with others who are enduring emotional trauma.
I have read several books on dealing with your emotions and recommend;
Battlefield of the Mind – written by Joyce Meyer, International Speaker in dedication to her son who suffers with depression
Mastering your emotions – written by Colin Dye, Senior Pastor of Kensington Temple Church, Notting Hill UK
Are you highly emotional?
When did you first realise this?
What steps did you take/are you taking to keep your emotions in check?