With all the plans in the world, life will not go exactly as we have planned it. Of course, this is no excuse not to plan as we need order and a focus in our lives. Coasting along is not at all recommended. We should give room for flexibility in our thinking and our approach and having a back up plan is not such a bad idea. The path you are on may take longer than your friends or colleagues but determination and commitment will mean you get there – surely this is of some importance.
I read a post on LinkedIn (my preferred social media site), where the writer spoke of timelines in which people feel pressured to work towards; leave university at 21, get married at 25, have two children by 30, become CEO by 40 and so on. Some will hit every goal post at the desired time while others will take a slightly different journey for various reasons. Home life, health, our mindset and circumstances heavily impact on the way in which we live, what we push for and what we close the door to.
From the age of 15 I wanted to become a journalist or newsreader. I loved to read a wide range of books, newspapers and magazines. I had a keen interest in news, films, showbusiness and celebrities in general. I was and still am an introvert and I do wonder if a part of me yearned to be exciting or to be seen as exciting.
I applied for a media studies degree course at a North London university – it was that long ago I cannot even recall the name of it. This was my dream course and I looked forward to delving into this subject matter for three years. As it turns out, I did not receive the required grade in my college exams and therefore was not accepted. That was a major blow to my confidence and my future hopes felt shattered. Thankfully I found another course, media technology at a West London university.
20 years later I am not a journalist or a newsreader but a manager working in local government. Very recently I began heading a women’s ministry at church – early days but I have some plans. I still have a passion for writing hence why I run a blog and have done for over three years. Who knows where this will take me – I am certainly enjoying the journey!
A few tips:
1. Ask yourself why you have decided on particular life choices and what you are willing and able to do to reach them
2. Seek alternative options and try to refrain from a rigid way of thinking
3. Ensure your choices are based on you and you are not living up to someone’s ideal
4. Be happy with who you are today – do not wait until you achieve or receive x, y, z. Contentment is key.
Has your life panned out according to your original plan or did it go off-course?
What did you learn about yourself in the process?
How would you encourage others?