Do you what you need to do, to be where you need to be!

Deep down we know what it is we need to do – be honest! The problem is we do not always want to do it. We want to do what is comfortable, what is easy, what is familiar.  Staying in our comfort zone (we all have one) means we very rarely move up to where we need to be – instead we coast along.  We are not entirely happy in our comfort zone but it is rather cosy. It is here that we convince ourselves we are fine as we are.

Take exercise or healthy eating (I refuse to mention “dieting” as long term we all know it is unsustainable). At first it is difficult to change your eating habits and adding exercise to your already busy life.  I came to a point where I accepted I am no more a 30 something and if I wanted to look and feel good, I would need to put the effort in. Well, that was a shock to my system. As a teen and in my early twenties I was as lean as anything and could eat whatever I liked without it impacting on my weight.

I knew if I wanted to see a change I had to make a change. There are no shortcuts as if there were, believe me I would have taken them. It actually feels liberating making conscious decisions in your life which you know will go on to benefit you and in some cases others.  Putting in the work whether physically, mentally or emotionally does not feel so great in the moment but the long term results far outweigh the temporary feeling of dread.

What do you need or want to do?
Pass your driving test
Study to work in a particular field
Take up a hobby
Work on your confidence, self-worth
Adopt a healthier lifestyle

There is no reason why you cannot get the ball rolling today. Look online, make a telephone call, speak to a friend or colleague.

You are responsible for your own progress and development.  You can choose to do little or you can choose to do much.  However slow your pace, ensure you continue to move forward.

Have you recently stepped out into something new and challenging? What pushed you?
What advice would you give to encourage someone else to do so?

20 thoughts on “Do you what you need to do, to be where you need to be!”

  1. It really is so easy to stay in your comfort zone. I see this all the time as a diet coach. I see people who would like to change, but are uncomfortable in making changes. But of course I also see this in my own life. I try to encourage myself to live outside my comfort zone. But it takes constant awareness and attention on my part. If I’m not careful, I’ll go back to what I see as safe.


    1. Erica – it is so easy to take your eye off the ball. I calorie count in order to maintain my weight. I have stopped on a few occasions believing I could somehow do it my own way – the weight crept back on and I had to return to calorie counting. You have to do what you have to do to see results.


  2. Phoencia, great ideas! I totally support them 🙂
    Indeed, failure is not durable. As the tomorrowland fans as me would say: yesterday is history, tomorrow is mystery; today is a gift – lets make it legendary 🙂


  3. Paraphrase Joseph Cambell, “Follow your bliss and the money will follow.” In other words, keep doing the thing you love, get good at it, get better at it and I believe the income will come along.

    Sometimes, it’s a slow process!


  4. I’ve been doing a lot of research on what dietary choices are best to help keep my cancer from recurring. It’s going to be a challenge to make so many changes, but I plan to be gradual and allow myself breaks as I adjust.


  5. I started doing what I really want in life since past 1.5 years. Adapting a healthy lifestyle, including a minimum 60 minutes of walking on regular basis, creation of my blog – these are the big changes I welcomed to my life in recent past.
    I have learnt (what you have beautifully explained in your post) a simple fact after facing problems in my career and health. Nothing will come to me unless I stretch my hand towards it. I may fail, but still I will be happy to realise that I tried my best.


  6. It’s up to each one of us to take action and listen to our mind, body and soul. If we don’t that day might never arrive.
    I have decided to eat healthier and add more days to my exercise plan, work on my confidence as well as my self-worth. Thanks for the motivation.


  7. Great post, Phoenicia. I think that in today’s world, we constantly need to be on top of our game. As a self-employed writer, I always have to keep adding new services or products to keep people interested in my work. It’s not always easy. i.e. I haven’t embraced video as many others have done to augment their blogs and up their google ratings. But slowly, I am taking little snippets of video, and one day, I will incorporate it into my site.


    1. Doreen – there is a need to stay current which can be challenging as technology moves so fast. I tried Periscope a year or so ago and felt a little uncomfortable. I may try again. Vlogging is becoming popular amongst bloggers.


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