Oprah Winfrey quoted;
“Be thankful for what you have, you will end up having more. If you concentrate on what you do not have, you will never ever have enough.”
Have you ever felt you do not have enough of something, whether it be time, money, good health, friends, hobbies, achievements, recognition, attention from close friends and family? We have all been there (at least I have) where we spend far too much time focusing on what we do not have and overlook what we do have. This overshadows our view and changes our perception of ourselves and life. It can consume us and cause a great hindrance to our joy. I say joy as happiness is short lived. Happiness is temporary and tends to be based on a future event or an occasion such as a celebration or a holiday. Once this is over, your countenance changes.
As a teenager, I recall thinking of my evening/weekend plans to get me through the day. I would even go so far as planning what I would watch on television. I was deeply unhappy at school and constantly looked for reasons to feel happy.
We do of course have needs and desires and when these are not met (primarily our needs), it can cause us a great deal of stress. As children/teenagers we had ideas of what life would be like as an adult; in my case it was the freedom to do what I wanted, when I wanted. It did not occur to me that being an adult would come with a great deal of responsibility.
Back to my point – our lives may not be what we envisaged due to a number of factors (this list is not exhaustive);
1. Decisions we have made
2. Circumstances that are beyond our control
3. Lack of choice
4. Lack of knowledge
We can go over what life could have been had we done x, y or z but this will not bring an immediate change. We can be hard on ourselves which will only dent our self-esteem.
We can choose to look at the good elements of our lives and enjoy every minute of them. We can choose to stop in this moment and take in what is around us rather than stewing over the “gaps” in our lives. There is not one person in this world who does not have a need. Some refuse to allow this to dampen their spirits and enjoy life, others feel they cannot be complete until they receive what they desire. Which one are you?
Live life to the full today!
Do you have contentment?
Did you have to work at it?
What advice would you give someone struggling in this area?