Do you allow time to do absolutely nothing?


At my recent hairdresser appointment, I sat comfortably and almost drifted off to sleep whilst she styled my hair. It was absolute bliss and I could have happily sat there all day.  It brought me back to a time when I went to the hairdressers just for a wash, dry and style. I was a student then and only had myself to focus on.  I was more than capable of washing and styling my hair but I enjoyed the pampering!

The thought that came to my mind was;

“I am enjoying this. How often do I sit back and do nothing, absolutely nothing?”

It is rare for me to be doing very little, especially when in my home. I am kept on my feet with two young children. The housework, cleaning and washing never ends. This is despite having a husband who works alongside me.  By nature I like to be kept busy – to keep on going, sometimes even when I feel tired. I am trying with all my will to break this habit of pushing my body. I am almost at the point of accepting that I will never beat housework or any other work in the home for that matter.  It is not a race or a competition – I have nothing to prove to myself or anyone else. 

I confess that when watching a film, I might just be browsing on the Internet unless the film is so good it captures my full attention. I stopped watching soaps several years ago because a) I found them utterly depressing b) I did not want to expose my children to the loose living so often displayed in soaps and c) I wanted to make better use of my evenings.

So back to this doing nothing (obviously not all day), the society we live in is so fast paced. We can access information almost immediately on the Internet. We can reach people all over the world via social media in seconds.  We do however have the choice to switch off and be non contactable for some time just as we were living 20 years ago and beyond.

I tell myself over and over, everything in this world will continue ticking over if I step back as and when I feel the need to.

How often do you sit back and watch the world go by?  

Do you have particular times of the day/week when you cannot be reached?

28 thoughts on “Do you allow time to do absolutely nothing?”

  1. It is vital, just to do nothing. Let the mind and body, just reboot for couple minutes. I however, know people think that yoga, or meditation is the same as nothing, but they treat these like work to. They concentrate on how much time is spent in meditation, or how well they perform yoga movies. They forget why they are doing it in the first place, they bring their attitude with them.
    We need time, just to sit back, and let everything flow away for couple minutes.
    Thanks for sharing this with us.


  2. I am disconnected or can’t be reached only when I’m on a vacation and that seems a good time! Going through your post makes me tempted to go for it.


  3. Like Rose Mary, I have a husband who is really good at doing nothing (even though he does work long hours so he’s definitely not lazy) However, he doesn’t feel any guilt if he sits in front of the TV all day on the weekend. I estimate that it might be a male thing. Us women are brought up to take care of everything and every one so we feel like our work and responsibility is never done. And of course, time management becomes even more challenging with small kids. I’m actively trying to find a new hobby. I feel that when I have a hobby, that guarantees me at least a little time a week to not focus on work or responsibility.


    1. It is a struggle with young children but as you say, having a hobby means time out to do something you enjoy. An hour or so away from the gaps is often what we need. Life’s trials seems more bearable when we stop for a moment.


  4. Hi Phoenicia. Your post really got me thinking about the concept of doing nothing. There’s such a push to keep moving forward that it’s easy to feel burnt out. I’m working on unplugging from technology and multitasking during social activities to recharge.


  5. I take time to do nothing as often as I can, though it comes and goes in waves. I like going camping where there is no cell service so I can get away from devices and social media. There’s much to be said for tuning into one’s self and tuning out the rest of the world at times.


  6. Good for you Phoenicia! As for me, I take time for me every single day. 🙂 Well, let me qualify that, in the morning I take advantage of one of the hiking trails that surround my new home, and at the end of the day I unplug and read, so strictly speaking I’m doing something, but it’s quality “me” time.


  7. I live with a man who is an expert at doing nothing and being utterly at peace with it. I’m learning from him! While truly doing nothing is a concept I may never grasp, once our deck was remodeled and I had an oasis to sit upon, I must say I’ve gotten very good at curling up out there with a good book. Doing nothing but reading words on a page!


  8. Phoenicia, great info. This area is one that is so often neglected and yet so very important to our whole well-being. My ‘me’ time is first thing in the morning when everyone else is sleeping – just relaxing, doing some deep breathing, and this sets me up for the day.


  9. I admit that it is easy to watch TV and read stuff on social media. But, I don’t feel I am getting anything from either tax. So, when I watch TV, I only what TV. It may not be for long 30 minutes max. But, that’s OK, it works for me. I need to have my brain stop for a bit so I can go back and be refreshed. Too much in my head doesn’t make for good decisions. Thanks for sharing.


  10. I think that having smartphones and being connected all the time has made it harder to do nothing. I think you have to give yourself at least a couple hours a day when you either don’t have any devices with you or you shut them down.


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