Social media – is it taking over our lives?

Board any form of public transport and you will find the majority of passengers face deep in their mobile phones. Some may well be texting or making notes on an organiser app but most, I guarantee will be on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn. I am one of them!

Due to my blog and make up business, I spend time on Facebook as I run two business pages. I also enjoy networking on LinkedIn and am part of various discussion groups for bloggers, writers and small business owners. LinkedIn has opened up a new world to me and I am happy to embrace it.

I use social media on my commute, lunch breaks and late in the evening when my children are asleep. Whilst at home I like to switch off and focus on the family. At times I am simply itching to respond to a comment on my blog or business page but I choose to prioritise my family. Being ‘present’ is highly underestimated and I feel social media can (if you allow it) take up too much of your time. People are literally, eating, sleeping and breathing it!

Gone are the days when one went out and the emphasis was on taking in the sights and the ambience. Now, photographs are posted on the hour with statements of what fun one is having. Why not post on returning from your day out and choose to enjoy that moment with the people who are actually there with you in person?

I rarely post when I am on a day out and never when away on holiday. I deliberately wait until I have arrived home. There is good reason for this; I generally do not like to disclose my movements.

The majority of teenagers document their entire life on Facebook. At a fast rate, they are becoming more and more disengaged from family members. They put themselves under immence pressure to have a constant presence on social media in case they are somehow forgotten.  There is a specific term for this and it is known as the Fear of Missing Out (FOMO).

In my youth, I visited friends and sat in their bedrooms chatting away for hours or we went to our local shopping centre to ‘hang out’.  I was able to detach from my peers and had no idea how they spent their weekend/school holidays. The youth of today do not have the pleasure of enjoying the simple things that we took for granted. For this reason, I will subtly discourage my children from joining any form of social media for as long as I can. 

Do you allow yourself to disengage every so often from social media?

How much does social media impact on your interaction with others?

Contentment – do you have it?

“He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have” Socrates

What a powerful quote!  

We are taught to value education, excel in our studies, seek a career with a lucrative income in order to buy the four bed semi-detached house with a white garage on a tree lined road. Not to mention two long haul holidays a year – flying business class of course! 

Absolutely nothing wrong with having any of the above (I rather like the idea of two exotic holidays) but when does striving for more turn to greed?  At what point will we be satisfied with “our lot?” 

As we are informed that we can attain more, the likelihood of us reaching for this increases. It is human nature. We are survivors and generally will do what it takes – some with far more integrity than others, mind. 

I laugh when I think back to working part-time and had this wonderful idea of significantly increasing my direct debit payment to a children’s charity once I left university. Naively, I did not consider that once working full-time I would grow to enjoy using my disposable income to travel, buy clothes, eat out regularly.  Is this not the done thing though, at least with young people – spending according to what you earn?

The city banker earning, let us say £200,000p/a is striving to earn £300,000. He knows exactly how he will spend the additional income; private schooling for the children, ski-ing, holiday home in France.  His ‘brother’ earning £100,000 believes he will be so much better off if he earned £200,000. Little does he realise that he would increase his standard of living then go on to dream of earning £300,000 just as his ‘brother’ had.

I admit that being financially stable gives you one less thing to be concerned about.  Also, being in nice surroundings and free to spend as you wish (reasonably) makes one feel good about themselves.  

It will serve us well to count our blessings, most especially when we feel downcast or disappointed. It is at this time that we are more inclined to look at what we do not have and allow our hearts to be discouraged. 

Are you content with your life? If not, what would you like to change? 

Is there anything you can do to make the change possible?

Decision making – not for the faint hearted!

I have been pondering over a number of big decisions that my husband and I will need to make in the coming weeks. Feelings of anxiety have tried to push their way into my mind as I battle not to carry this weight. Worrying will do nothing to change my circumstances but it will do a mighty great job of stealing my joy – only if I allow it.

By nature I am not a procrastinator but I do over think the repercussions that may come after I have made a decision.  I feel a great sense of responsibility whilst reluctantly accepting that I will have to live with my choices, regardless of the outcome.  

We all make decisions daily, some may well be small but they are decisions nonetheless. Even deciding which train to catch, what to eat for lunch, which client to call and so on. Our lives are panned out by the decisions that we make – quite deep when you truly give it some thought.  Perhaps this is why I do not take decision making lightly.  

I came across this quote from Elbert Hubbard;

“It does not take much strength to do things, but it takes a great deal of strength to decide what to do.”

Making key decisions, say in the corporate world requires an element of ruthlessness along with an assurity and complete ownership of your decision whether your plans come to pass or not. The proud need not apply!

If you look at top entrepreneurs, Sir Richard Branson and Bill Gates, you will notice that they are determined, competitive and confident in making decisions. Sir Richard has admitted to failing a number of times and has quoted that in the world of business, one needs to lick their wounds and get back on their feet. Bill Gates takes two weeks out in every year to spend alone to focus entirely on his challenges and opportunities in order to make key decisions.

Are you decisive?

How much ownership do you take when making decisions?

What is your attitude when life does not go according to plan?

Coping strategies for the growing demands on your time!

Let’s face it – life can be busy!

With the growing demands from your job, family, running a home and other responsibilities, one can feel overwhelmed and question how you can possibly fit everything in. 

The truth is often you cannot do everything you set out to do. You start with good intentions but then realise you have over committed yourself. How many times have you tried to squeeze in far too many tasks in one day and then panicked on realising you could not complete them?

The key is to prioritise the people that need to be attended to and the tasks that are of the most importance. This is where your focus should lay.  

To do lists are ideal for planning your day. I would advise that you list tasks in order of importance. A list will keep you on track and it feels great to tick the tasks off as you complete them!

Here are four changes that you can make to your life;

1. Switch off your television!
According to the Telegraph, people in the UK spend an average of four hours watching television every day. I used to spend around two hours an evening watching television but put a stop to it over a year ago. I now only watch particular programmes. I do not miss it and once I put my children to bed I use my evenings to catch up with my husband, work on my blog/make up business.

2. Wake up earlier to prepare for the day ahead.  Spend the first part of your day alone – read, pray (optional), reflect. Naturally I am NOT a morning person but I have adjusted to very early morning starts due to my change of working hours. I quite enjoy my brisk walk to the station – the crisp air, quiet roads and my thoughts.  

3. If you commute to work or place of study, use this time to catch up with emails, telephoning friends/family, making appointments.  The key is to make the best use of your time. I rarely spend my evenings in conversation on the phone, however I will send the odd email or text message. 

4. Be good to yourself! 
Take a few hours out of your weekly schedule to do something that you enjoy. Whether it be having a massage, a manicure, reading a book, catching up with a friend over a meal. You are more likely to cope with your ‘load’ when you step away from it all once in a while.

How do you cope with your responsibilities? 

What do you do to unwind?

Perhaps you have some tips.