Given the choice I would like nothing more than a comfortable, straight forward life where everything is as I want it to be. Who would have it any other way?
I often think about staying at home working on projects that I enjoy which fit nicely around dropping and collecting my daughter from school. The reality is leaving my home early and returning late, having managed my blog and online business whilst on my long commute. I know this is for a season and I remain focused on my goals, one of which is to work entirely for myself.
We are well aware that challenges are inevitable, therefore it is important that we find strategies in order to deal with them. Often, once I overcome a challenge, another one is waiting behind it to greet me! I am sure many of you can relate to this.
Below I have placed challenges into three categories;
1. Challenges that we cannot control such as an illness in the family or the way in which we are treated by others. These challenges are the most painful as we know there is absolutely nothing that we can do to change the situation. We cannot make an illness disappear or change someone’s attitude towards us.
2. Challenges that are for a season such as working in a job that we do not like. Although this challenge will not be long term, it can be hard to manage whilst going through it.
3. Challenges that we can change immediately but do not (feel we) have the strength to do so such as removing ourselves from a toxic/damaging relationship. Others may advise us to leave but when you have bound yourself to another, you will need to be willing to experience a loss.
Reflect on the following question;
Do I have any control over my situation?
If no, you can seek support and advice to assist with coping either day-to-day or long term. Many charities exist to provide practical and emotional support to those who require it.
If not at present, you can learn to accept your situation until you are able to change it. Do what you can to make life more bearable. Perhaps give yourself a weekly ‘treat’ day.
If yes, be willing to step out into the unknown. You will be scared but do it anyway. Do not stay in a situation through the wrong belief that this may be the best that life has to offer you.
How do you face challenges?
Have your coping mechanisms changed compared to five years ago?